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Teen Vogue: Toddlers Understand 'Consent' - It's Like Ordering Pizza

Shocking video on children and consent

By: Daniel Newton  |@NeonNettle
 on 14th July 2017 @ 6.44am
video which appeared on teen vogue which focuses on the nature of consent with children © press
video which appeared on Teen Vogue which focuses on the nature of consent with children

A new video which appeared on Teen Vogue which focuses on the nature of consent with children has brought up a few question regarding the nature of the content.

The video which is called NO means NO & YES means YES!!! - Consent: QUEER KID STUFF #16 talks about what type of things can be considered 'consent'.

Strangely, the first line in the article reads: if you've ever ordered a pizza you understand consent.

Pizza?

Lindsay Amer, who runs the YouTube channel 'Queer Kid Stuff' (yes the name doesn't seem right either) attempts to explain clearly what consent actually means so kids can grasp the concept.

"Consent is about consenting or giving permission to someone for something," Lindsay says.

Lindsay also says there is no real reason for anyone not to grasp 'consent', even toddlers.

"The easiest example is sharing," Lindsay says.

"When someone asks you to share your toy with them, you can always say yes or no. When you're playing with someone, you should share your toys because it's the nice thing to do, but you always have that choice to give or not give consent."

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According to Teen Vogue: There are a lot of worthy efforts out there to help people understand consent by showing how simple it actually is. Maybe you've heard some of them: if you've ever ordered pizza you understand consent, if you drink tea you understand consent if you understand stealing you understand consent.

Those are just a few, but still, we see court cases and studies that show people still don't really understand what consent is. Well, a new video from Lindsay Amer, who runs the YouTube channel Queer Kid Stuff shows exactly why there's no excuse not to grasp consent. Even toddlers understand it.

In a video alongside her trusty teddy bear, Teddy, Lindsay explains what consent is. She asks Teddy if they've ever noticed that Lindsay asks if they're ready before they start every video, and waits until Teddy says they are to start.

This, she says, is consent. "Consent is about consenting or giving permission to someone for something," Lindsay says. But in her explanation, Lindsay proves that there's really no reason for anyone not to understand consent since it's something that we even practiced it as toddlers.

Watch Lindsay's full video here:

"The easiest example is sharing," Lindsay says.

"When someone asks you to share your toy with them, you can always say yes or no. When you're playing with someone, you should share your toys because it's the nice thing to do, but you always have that choice to give or not give consent."

Exactly. Of course, this video is for children, so it's important to note that, when it comes to sex, you do not have to ever consent because it's the nice thing to do, it's always solely up to you whether or not anyone thinks you "should" have sex with them.

But, at its core, Lindsay is right — sharing toys honestly sums up consent. The most important part is not whether someone says yes or no to sharing their toys, Lindsay points out, it's about how the person requesting it responds.

"The most important thing to remember about consent is that you should always respect when someone else says no," Lindsay says. "That is their choice to make, not yours."

Another example? When someone asks to hug you. Lindsay points out that you never have to hug someone, you can say yes or no. And, as always, Lindsay sends out an important reminder that yes always means yes, and that basically anything else means no.

"Any answer that isn't the word yes also means no," she says.

So there you have it. Consent really is that simple. And if toddlers can understand, so can the rest of us.

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